Hi, I'm Isabel

I’m a mother and an accredited motherhood & leadership coach.

Through many conversations with like-minded mothers, I have learned how important it is to share our experiences to inspire each other in navigating the challenges of juggling ambitious careers and motherhood.

Below, you can read my story of transitioning from being an independent woman to becoming a mother.

A woman with shoulder-length brown hair wearing a sleeveless black top and black pants, standing outdoors near a stone wall, smiling and looking to her left.

Before motherhood, I was very career-focused. As a senior digital marketing manager at global fashion brands, such as Tommy Hilfiger, Farfetch, and H&M, I worked at a high pace, traveled extensively, and was accustomed to working long hours.

After having my son, I returned to work after 5 months of maternity leave, taking on a new job in corporate marketing. I thought that I could ‘do it all’ and just step back into my old mold. But while my professional side was excited to express herself at work, my new mom side felt guilty and missed being with my son. I wasn’t fully present in either role, always feeling like I was running behind and not being good enough. Seeming to keep it all together was draining and unfulfilling.

The quote by Osho deeply resonated with me. I felt lost and confused because the life that I had created for myself seemed to ‘not fit’ anymore, since I had become a mother. It was a process of letting go of parts of this old version of me and discovering this new version of myself as a mother.

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born.

She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. Osho

I felt lost
When I returned to work, I tried to maintain being my old self. But something had shifted. I felt lost and confused because the life that I had created for myself did not fulfill me anymore, since I had become a mother. However, I ignored the signs and continued to run on my old operating system until I almost burned out. I needed to reconnect with what was truly important to me now and figure out who this new version of me was.  

I felt overwhelmed
Juggling my responsibilities at work and as a mom left no time for myself. So I deprioritized doing the things I loved and caring for myself. Only when I got very sick, I started cutting back, setting better boundaries, and taking responsibility for my well-being again. 

I felt unfulfilled
Feeling torn between work and family, I realized that I craved to work at more flexible hours so that I could spend more time with my family. My priorities had shifted. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do yet, but I was longing for a career that supported both my professional aspirations and my new lifestyle as a mother.

What did I struggle with?

To overcome these challenges,
I invested in therapy and coaching to reconnect with myself and gain clarity on how I really want to lead my life. 

It wasn’t an easy journey, but it was absolutely worth it.

I am still me, but now I am also a mother
Motherhood was (and still is) such a profound transformation. It created not necessarily a new but a much more authentic version of myself. It helped me to explore and prioritize what is really important to me, which feels much more aligned with who I am and how I want to lead my life.

I can’t serve from an empty cup
I had heard this expression before, but never understood how true it was until I neglected ‘what fills my cup’. Through motherhood, I learned how important it is to incorporate time for myself to stay healthy and happy. So I rewired myself that taking time to do what I love and care for myself is necessary to ensure I feel well, and I can take care of my loved ones and be joyful and present with them.

I need ‘the village’
My independence used to be very important to me. I wanted to do it all by myself so I wouldn’t be a burden to anyone. But through motherhood, I have learned that I need ‘the village’ and how much I appreciate the help and support, especially as an expat. I’m originally from a small village (!) in Germany but have lived abroad since my early 20s - mostly between Amsterdam and Porto. I also learned that people generally like to help. They only need to know when help is needed. So it’s ok to ask friends and family for help or to pay for help from professionals, such as therapists, nannies, coaches, cleaners, Uber Eats, you name it. Admitting that I needed support and accepting help strengthened my relationships and created deeper connections.

I am not alone in this
Although I often felt alone during the beginning of transformation (which I later learned is defined as ‘matrescence’), I was assured that my feelings of losing ‘my old self’, being overwhelmed by my new responsibilities, and craving a different lifestyle since ‘my priorities had shifted’ weren’t unique to me in many conversations I started having with other modern mothers. These conversations helped me realize what an amazing and special time motherhood is. And how grateful I am to experience it. And I’m here to support you with navigating this life-changing transition.

What have I learned?

If you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or unsure what your next steps could look like, know that change is possible for you too, and that you don’t have to walk this path alone.

Let’s have a chat on how I could support you in feeling like the happiest version of yourself again.

With love, Isabel

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